The Merits of Placing Your Responsibilities onto Someone Else
I cannot think of anyone who enjoys paying their utility bills. As far as I can surmise everyone would prefer to get their water and electricity for free. There may be some exceptions to this general rule but these people are far in between the norm and hard to find.
Nikola Tesla had the unselfish idea of inventing a technology that would give free electricity to everyone but his development activities were quickly shut down by people like Thomas Edison and Charles A. Coffin the founders of General Electric and their cohorts J.P. Morgan and Anthony J. Drexel the founders of Drexel, Morgan & Co., and the Vanderbilt Family who were more concerned with making money and having control than promoting a universal consciousness.
If it can be done, there is no shame in getting one’s utility services for free if there is no theft involved in the process. However, placing this personal responsibility on someone else is very inconsiderate of others and can spoil a relationship.
Very few people want to be used and taken advantage of because it goes against human nature for anyone to be contented with being placed into any form of bondage, whether it’s a physical or psychological servitude. Yes, it is difficult to say no when family members or close friends are asking for financial help and this help should be given if the need is sincere if possible.
However, when there is a continuing trend by the same person asking for help for the same purpose then the legitimacy of their requests should be evaluated to figure out whether it is a genuine need or simply their method of paying their bills without using their money to do so.
Some people use community agencies to pay their utility bills month after month so as not to use their money to pay these bills. To them this is clever, but to people who are really hurting this practice is very thoughtless and uncaring of others as these services quickly run out of funds for that period because people who can pay their bills are eating up the funds because they refuse to budget and spend their money wisely.
A person’s personal obligations are nobody else’s responsibilities and if a person has any consideration at all for others they will not place their burden on someone else’s shoulders. It is no one’s duty to feed someone if they do not want to feed themselves. It is no one’s else’s duty to pay a person’s utility bills when that person can do so themselves but refuse to simply because they do not want to.
Love and caring can be used by a selfish person as a mallet to beat someone over the head with if they can get away with it. It may hurt, but at some point, there must come a time when enough is enough and the chains of bondage must be broken.
Problems and difficulties are not unique to any person. We all have our share of up’s and downs within this tiny window of time called terrestrial life. Being smart and cute and causing someone else unnecessary worry and anguish is being extremely antisocial to say the very least and is deserving of certain forms of modifications in that self-centered person’s way of thinking.
There is no merit in placing one’s personal responsibilities onto someone else’s shoulders. Excellence comes with being up lifters and supporters not being a drainage valve and a party-pooper. A soft touch and his or her money and peace of mind are soon departed if they allow someone to take advantage of them.
Essential points. Help if the need is genuine and you can do so. Do not be afraid to offend. Help those who are making every effort to help themselves. Do not let guilt guide you. Do not let love and concern blind you. Another person’s bills are not your responsibility and do not let them make you feel that they are. If you are of the people pleaser temperament, avoid helping someone directly as you will more than likely make a mess of your efforts, so use people and resources that are better equipped to give aid and support.
Who’s minding their store? They should be and not you. You have your own bills to pay and by continuing to ask you for money so that they can pay a utility bill they are showing you that your household means absolutely nothing to them and that they will use you until you are famished if you are fool enough to let them.
You cannot control the actions, behavior, and thinking of other people but you can make a stand and a statement for and about yourself. They may get angry with you for pulling back but they will get over it, and if not, they will at least have a little more respect for you than they did when you were letting them control you.
So, what are the merits of placing your responsibilities onto someone else? None that are noteworthy that I can see, but this is just my opinion you may think differently about this topic.